Heal and be free
My friend Anastasia (of Pristine Energy) introduced me to theta healing this summer and it’s radically shifted so much for me. It all started when I ran into an old ex-BFF-turned-acquaintance during a walk in the park. It was the kind of friendship that had been one big anxious-avoidant trap
The guiding principle in getting over breakups is realizing it’s not about the breakup. It is about what is within you. What is within you boils down to four types of baggage: 1. Unprocessed narrative 2. Unprocessed emotion 3. Unhealthy Beliefs4. Unfulfilled Needs Getting over the breakup involves working with
It’s my birthday! And I would like the share the best practices and philosophies that helped me become the most aligned and upleveled version of myself that I am today. The thing is— we all have “stuff” and baggage. No one is immune. The tools we use to work on
Which kind of breakup is easier to get over: a breakup from a healthy relationship, or a breakup from an unhealthy one? Conventionally, you would think the unhealthy one is easier to get over because it’s like “good riddance”, right? However, that’s not the case. Unhealthy relationships are harder to
Last month I ran into a friend I’d had a tumultuous history with, a close but toxic friendship turned more into an acquaintanceship over the years. She never did smalltalk. She saw through people to an uncomfortable degree at times. She would always be radically honest about where she was
Continue readingCan the people around you hold space for the real you?
I’ve been with assholes in relationships. I’ve been the asshole.
It was all basically a result of not understanding attachment styles.
Instead of unconsciously swinging from one extreme to the other, now I’m on the path of learning secure attachment. … Continue readingAttachment Styles
A lot of these could be a whole-ass post on their own. Hell, even the sub-points could be a post on their own. So, this is an overview, and is not a comprehensive list of “all the limiting beliefs out there”, but are mainly what I’ve come across. I’ve written
One day my friend was explaining to us cis folks about the cis gaze. “It’s this way that cis people have about staring at trans folks. You would probably understand, given how you experience the white gaze.” I was taken aback. Gears turned in my head. “Well… no. You have
✨Video yourself saying what you would say to X person. And this important–listen back to it after you’re done recording. In essence, you are witnessing yourself. ✨The classic write out the letter to what you want to say to the person. Then, burn it. (You can also send it. This
Continue readingMethods of Healing Old Grievances and Wounds
So, I’m an ex-expert ruminator. The pattern became very evident after my third breakup (a platonic breakup). Following every breakup, I would spend at least a year ruminating over it. This means everyday for a year without fail, I would be overthinking or overanalyzing about SOME aspect of what had