I’ve been working with attachment stuff for the past year and a half, and the most effective modality I’ve found for shifting it is theta healing.
When you feel anxious when you don’t get a response back from that person? That’s attachment material at play. Social media addiction? Heck, any sort of addiction? Also attachment stuff. Hard breakup? Likely kicking up attachment wounding.
Attachment stuff is pervasive in our everyday lives, and by tackling it we gain a lot of sovereignty back.
Last post I talked about theta healing and what it is: a modality that helps you heal shit by accessing the subconscious via the theta state. This post is about what working with attachment issues looks like with theta healing.
Using this modality, I’ve healed unhealthy attachments with friends, lovers, mentors, teachers, and even to social media (yes–I cured my social media addiction! Aside from coaching related stuff, I went from checking it a couple times a day to once every few days.)
The attachment issue will show up differently depending on how your theta healer gets their downloads. When I’m theta healing myself or others, what I typically see is an inner child desperately clinging to who or what the object of attachment is.
Quick primer on the inner child: the inner child is the younger aspect of your psyche that is frozen in time because they didn’t get their needs met. This aspect of our psyche can run anywhere from the time in the womb to a version of ourselves only a couple years younger than our present self. Once their needs are met, this fragmented aspect of your psyche can grow up and be integrated into present-day you.
So what does healing the inner child’s attachment issues look like in a sesh?
When I was healing an old friendship breakup, it showed up as a younger version of myself clinging onto my ex-friend.
So from there, I replace the object of attachment(my ex-friend in this case) with Source/God-ess/The Universe/etc., with Mother Earth supporting the foundation.
After that happens, I see the inner child going from anxious and clinging to happy, peaceful, playing. (You can replace the attachment object to anything really, doesn’t have to be divine in nature–the main thing is that the new attachment figure provides a feeling of security.)
But, sometimes the biggest thing preventing us from letting go, is simply that we don’t want to let go.
So I’ll see this visually as the inner child resisting letting go. When this happens, we then explore what is behind the resistance. For example, in my session it showed that my inner child was resisting letting go because she was afraid that my ex-friend wouldn’t be okay.
So then we went in the direction of assuring my younger self that my ex-friend would be okay. Once she was assured, she was able to let my ex-friend go.
After that, I saw my younger self growing up and reintegrating back into my present self.
I pretty much use this same process for any attachment object, be it ex-lovers, social media, mentors, teachers, what-have-you.
Sometimes with someone/something you’re particularly attached to, there will be multiple layers to release the subconscious clinging and different angles to approach it from:
After I did the session where my inner child let go of her attachment to my ex-friend, I revisited the issue and discovered that I also had an older version of my inner child also clinging onto my ex-friend. So I did the same process my theta healer had done for me, on myself, and reintegrated this aspect of my psyche as well.
But what was truly wild was the past life angle aspect of this friendship breakup.
After I had done the inner child work integrations, I still felt something lingering about the whole situation.
Another theta healer, Anastasia, discovered that the ex-friendship was karmic in nature and that in a past life my ex-friend was my unborn baby that I was really looking forward to having, but either I was forced to abort or lost the pregnancy somehow.
So in the theta healing session, Anastasia resolved the past lifetime, creating an alternate reality where in my past life I was able to see the child grow up in entirety. After that session, that lingering feeling around the whole breakup was gone and I felt so much lighter about the situation. (After I got over the weirdness that was my ex-friend being my unborn child in a past life.)
Another example of how attachment issues might look to the theta healer, as Anastasia mentioned, is an energetic cord around the belly button, akin to the umbilical cord.
Instead of receiving from the crown of the head from Source/our own inner alignment, we are looking for fulfillment from external sources to fill these unmet needs, which ultimately is a less efficient way of going about it.
And then, of course, there are the beliefs we have around close relationships.
I discovered that in my case, subconsciously I was deliberately choosing emotionally unavailable people because that felt safer to me, even as I was consciously bemoaning all the distant people in my life.
So in the theta healing session, we released the belief, “Being close to people is unsafe” and replaced it with “It is safe to have close relationships.”
Is theta healing the only way to work on attachment stuff?
No. It can absolutely be done on your own, with diligent, consistent inner child work(meditations, affirmations, mirror work, etc.), and consciously changing old patterns as they arise.
In my experience, though, theta healing is a much faster way to go about it, and also a great complement to whatever else you’re doing.
Or, if you’re ready to work on attachments that don’t serve you, lingering breakups, your social media addiction, etc., book a consult with me and let’s chat!